I have to put up with rudeness all day at work. I'm paid to put up with it, even if it makes me die a little inside everytime I let someone get away with unnecessary behaviour.
However I simply cannot stand rudeness in my real life. Today I received a comment on my old Ancestry.co.uk account (for my family history research). I've had to cancel my membership to save a little money and haven't been keeping it up to date (I fully intend to go back to it when I've got my money sorted out). The comment on one of my ancestors was this:
"Hello JeeKay
Sometime ago, I entered comments on your tree on Ancestry, which, for some reson, you have failed to alter.
You have his date of birth as 1725 and his parents birth in the 1800's.
I have given details in your tree on several other Semark/Seamark to assist you in making those changes.
With regards"
This guy left me like 50 million comments one day (over the course of several hours) which as I wasn't using Ancestry, and because I found that amount of comments on my tree a little weird, I ignored. And now a couple of weeks later he sends me a bloody rude email CHASING ME UP. I couldn't believe his audacity. Who does he think he is?
So I sent him a rather rude (for me) reply.
"Thank you for your comment.
I do appreciate your comments, however I have cancelled my Ancestry
membership and keep my family tree elsewhere (and thanks to some
marriage certificates had already corrected my errors). I shall, when
I have a bit more money, return to my Ancestry membership and upload
the corrected family tree.
However I feel quite upset to have received this comment (copied
below) which is quite rude and ill-mannered. I really do appreciate
your attempt to help me, but I'd rather you didn't leave me comments
any longer.
Kindest Regards
Jae Kay"
Was that a bit harsh?
Chill, Jae, chill. Please.
ReplyDeleteGet this book: "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff--and it's all small stuff" by Richard Carlson. He says, "Often we allow ourselves to get all worked up about things that, upon closer examination, aren't really that big a deal..."
As our former first lady said, Just say, "Fuck off!"
The creeps one comes across everyday aren't worth expending any extra energy on. Especially angry energy.
Was that a bit harsh?
ReplyDeleteProbably yeah. I just think they were being keen to help and probably weren't aware you'd abandoned your account.
I don't know, it was just the way he phrased it as if I was some company who'd "failed" to do what he had asked. I know that I would never leave a comment somewhere and then a few days later chase up the person who I'd left the comment for and make it clear to them how great I was trying to help them out.
ReplyDeleteI felt it was a little too "needy" for my liking too.
I know, I'm being harsh but the way he phrased his "helpful" comments was pretty rude too... not "I think perhaps you've made a mistake here" but "You've got this completely wrong" "This is totally incorrect" As if my attempts at a family tree were meant to be absolutely correct at all times.
You need to drink more ;-)
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