Wednesday, February 28, 2018

Snow Day

Couldn't get into work today. Had planned ahead and agreed annual leave. Decided to still conference in to an important meeting I was going to represent my department at.

An hour long meeting when you aren't working is the LONGEST hour any one could ever experience. It was painful.

No trains tomorrow either. So... oh God. I'll be working from home...

Tuesday, February 27, 2018

Snow Day!

Disappointed with the snow covering I headed to work... which is when the heavens opened and quickly covered Sandwich in a blanket of snow. Made it to work... easily... damn it!


And whilst I was at work Jeff the Maine Coon launched a modelling career... 




Monday, February 26, 2018

Monday Diet Check-In

Day 35!! Still going.

People have started to notice.

All is good.


20 Years A Gay

20 years ago this week (possibly today, 80% certain it's today and not the 24th which is the other option...) I saw the Sixth Former.

I've told the story of my coming out story which started with the first time I saw the Sixth Former, the object of my unrequited love for a long, long time after. I think the fact my memory of the George Michael thing, which happened AFTER the Sixth Former, suggests my memories are not to be trusted too much and that, if that's true, I was still in denial about my sexuality for a few more months.

But I think this post, written closer to the time and thus a bit more reliable, gives you a taste of the power of my unrequited love. I'd totally forgotten this incident. At that time I was... emotionally unstable. It may not have happened. But... I was working when I wrote the post so I very much doubt I made it up.

Reading it certainly suddenly made me remember that first half term after my crush on him had appeared. It was literally painful. I can't imagine feeling emotions that strong nowadays. Teenage hormones certainly have a huge effect.

I don't know his name. There's no way he knows what an influence he had on my life, my tastes in men and, for a long time until I gave it all up, my religious beliefs. He passed through my life never knowing me and I never actually knowing him. But he left a large wake behind him and I surfed that wake all the way to Jim.

I hope he is well, living a happy life. I'm not as crazy as I was then. No "OMG I LOVE HIM!" stuff. Yet I do wish him every happiness possible for he was more influential on me than almost any person outside my Mum.

That quiet, beautiful boy. This poem always reminds me of him.

Sunday, February 25, 2018

Second Life Sunday

Continued to work on my other avatar. Given him a new hairstyle from this month's Men Only Monthly and decked him out in gear from Remnant Dark Days.




Saturday, February 24, 2018

Stonewall Continues To Live Up To Expectations

In the last decade Stonewall has become infamous for dividing the gay community. It's opposition to same-sex marriage, it's attempts to criminalise gay youth and it's "pragmatic" opposition to boycotting businesses owned by homophobic world leaders all show it really doesn't have the best interests of gay men (the group I'm a member of, I'm not LGBT [I've come to see that term as an attempt to neuter and desexualise lesbian, gay and bisexual folk] though sympathetic and supportive to the LBT elements and their own struggles) in mind. 

Now it has withdrawn support for Pride In London. That's right. They won't boycott a hotel owned by a homophobe. They won't support same-sex marriage without INTENSE levels of shaming by thousands. They encourage parents to report their gay kids (who may not even be out!) to the police. But they will withdraw support for the biggest Pride event in the country over diversity issues (I've no idea of the validity of the concerns, they might be right to do this but given their previous actions it seems somewhat mad they are suddenly decisive over something) and go on to support Black Pride (which doesn't sound like a diverse event to me...).

I honestly can't believe companies and individuals continue to give money to an organisation that seems hell bent on dividing and destroying the communities it claims to represent (of course it's only been representing trans people for half a decade after quite the debate... slow to every cause unless it involves undermining (or locking up) lesbian, gay, bi and trans folk) 

Friday, February 23, 2018

Snow Is A-Coming!

It's been years since snow has properly hit where I live.

Eastry appears to exist in some sort of strange anti-snow bubble and it drives me bonkers. I'll get to work and being crunching my way through snow whilst back home (a mere 19 miles away) is bone-dry.

Well no longer... it seems like next week is going to be cold. I can't wait! I want LOTS of snow. I might ask for Wednesday off work so I can make snow angels.

That's how much I love snow.


Thursday, February 22, 2018

Ray of Light

Catatonia's International Velvet may have been the main stay on my Walkman as I went about delivering papers in early 1998, but Madonna's Ray of Light album was equally important on my boombox (yes, I had a boombox). Frozen and the Ray of Light single were always on the radio too and remind me of driving around with my Mum to Snodland and Tunbridge Wells.


Frozen was there in the cold winter months of 1998, when depression was rising and my first crush was blooming. Ray of Light came along when the first crush was over and summer had arrived, playing on the radio during my work experience at Saga that year.



Two songs that practically defined my 1998 (and cemented my love for Madonna which was first born in the 1980s when I LOVED Holiday when I was Tiny Jae).

Plus the other songs on this album like Candy Perfume Girl, Nothing Really Matters and the Power of Goodbye are epically good.

Wednesday, February 21, 2018

Lost In Space



1) I loved Lost in Space when I was a kid.
2) Lost in Space came out as a movie in 1998, that fabled year. Despite it being pretty bad, I liked it and it came out during my peak geek period.
3) I'm pretty excited for the latest version which had a teaser released today
4) I'm really just not in the mood to blog properly today so... this is sort of cheating but it's still content so it totally counts!

Tuesday, February 20, 2018

The Angry Chef: Bad Science and the Truth About Healthy Eating

I've just finished reading Angry Chef and it is quite delightful.


This is no academic work but as an angry polemic against dodgy diet advice and dangerous frauds it really works.

It offers a fresh perspective and the rigorous defence of "processed" foods is wonderfully unexpected.

This is a book that doesn't have any time for woo, for people making money off diet and wellness plans based on nonsense nor for Gwyneth Paltrow. He's really, really clear on the Gwyneth Paltrow thing.

If you are after a nice kick up the bum for beliefs around superfoods, detoxs and paleo... this is the book for you.

Monday, February 19, 2018

Monday Diet Catch-Up

Today is day 28! Yes, it is hard to believe but this is now my fourth week of dieting.

I'm pretty proud of myself. I often start things but don't finish them. That's not to say I will finish this, there's still a long way to go. However I've stuck to it for nearly 30 days with very few slip-ups and I've not gone over my calorie target one single time!

I've been putting my calorie intake up on Facebook which has kept me honest but it has started to attract "advice". I'm no dieting expert but... I don't need advice from other non-experts.

So reporting in: all good! :)

Today's "inspiration". Ahem.



Sunday, February 18, 2018

Second Life Sunday


A couple of weeks ago I bought a new jacket from FashionNatic. It was great and won me $L600 at a best dressed competition (theme was military). So when I saw they had a new top for sale at this month's round of Ultra, I bought it without a second thought. As you can see, it is pretty great!

And I got myself a Star Trek: Discovery uniform... just because I could...



Saturday, February 17, 2018

Star Trek: Discovery

Despite all my concerns, shared still it seems by many, Star Trek: Discovery's first season turned out to be one of the best seasons in Star Trek history.


There was character development, twists, unexpected deaths, a diversity of storylines (managing to mix a series long storyline with episodic stories very, very well) and amazing effects, costumes and make-up.

I love Michael. I adore Saru. The universe the series displays is vibrant and exciting. This isn't Star Trek in the way any other Star Trek has been but... you can say that about every series. 

This IS far more Star Trek than the reboot movies have been (don't get me wrong, I love them too but there are people out there saying Discovery isn't Star Trek so just comparing!). 

Long may it continue!

I've been a Star Trek fan for longer than I've been a fan of almost anything else (Disney probably only exception) and I'm still happy with it 30 ish years after I first saw an episode of TNG. 

Friday, February 16, 2018

Brimful of Asha

There was one song that you could not escape in 1998. Brimful of Asha.



This was my soundtrack for that summer. It was EVERYWHERE. Definitely mixed up with my emerging crushes on guys at school at the time, hearing it now gives me a sense of warmth and happiness. It also reminds me of solitude as my thoughts were very much turned inward at the time even as I was laying the foundations for friendships that'd soon come to dominate the next few years of my life.

Thursday, February 15, 2018

Red Dwarf Turns 30

Red Dwarf featured pretty strongly in my social group when I was at school. And now... it turns 30!!! Crazy.

So I thought I'd share my favourite scene...

Wednesday, February 14, 2018

Last Night: In Detail

*Jae gets into bed*

*next door's burglar alarm goes off*

*our house's disconnected alarm is linked to next door and begins to sound*

*Jim remains totally asleep*

*Jae struggles to get dressed as Bella runs around the house barking at the disruption*

*gets outside to find his next door neighbours are away and house is empty but over-the-driveway-neighbours (joint owners of Jeff) are out of their house*

*Jae is established as chief burglar hunter and patrols the houses just in case checking all doors and windows are locked whilst Jeff's other family use their spare keys to get into the neighbour's house*

*Jae is handed a package that had gone "missing" which had been left outside next door's door in rain*

*30 minutes later Jeff's other family find the burglar alarm code and switch off the alarm at last*

*Jae waves good night to them as they lock up and returns to his house*

*discovers the alarm in his house is continuing*

*looks up how to switch it off online as it is not connected to the keypad*

*discovers he needs screwdrivers*

*searches fruitlessly finding only giant screwdrivers of comic sizes*

*tries to wake Jim who helpfully states "You know the alarm's not connected" before falling back to sleep*

*Jae decides to try to sleep through alarm, closing the shoe cupboard door on it and the bedroom door*

*covers head with pillow in bed*

*discovers he cannot hear the alarm through one ear no matter what he does*

*grows concerned at this new discovery but discovers he can hear everything else except for the alarm through that ear*

*eventually fitfully falls to sleep worried about alarms, ears and the fact someone might be lurking outside trying to burgle the property*

*wakes up to discover alarm has gone off on its own and Jim is sceptical any of this happened... ear appears fine... but finds the package he was given in the front room proving it wasn't all some horrible nightmare*

Tuesday, February 13, 2018

Coming To Terms With Past Jae

A bout of nostalgia overcame me last week due to a 15 year anniversary since I moved to my current company. And, as you saw, I read some of my old diary entries on here.

The trouble is... I didn't really like the boy I found. Yes, we're talking half a lifetime ago. But I'd like to issue a formal apology to everyone I've ever met for being such a highly-strung, overly-emotional idiot child.

He was mean and cruel at times. Self-obsessed at others. I'm still these things sometimes but feel like I recognise that a lot more nowadays. Usually.

So yes... sorry!

Past Jae has, however, made me want to re-double my efforts to be a good person.

Monday, February 12, 2018

Monday Diet Check In

Day 21! Three weeks of the diet complete. I feel good, mainly just about having kept to something. Sure I've broken a couple of times but always kept under my calorie limit for the day.

I'm not weighing myself, as this led to disillusion on my last significant attempt, so it is hard to tell if the weight is falling off. However I'm in this for the long term (especially up until the wedding!) so just going to keep at it.

Each day is another victory.

Inspiration*



*Not necessarily diet inspiration. Ahem.

Sunday, February 11, 2018

Second Life Sunday

Not too much has happened in Second Life this week as I'm pretty satisfied with my home area and my avatar. Saying that, I did spend a little of yesterday making a new Signature mesh body avatar to wear clothes my main Aesthetic avatar doesn't support. Here he is in a sweater and tie from Tonktastic, currently available at this month's round of TMD


Meanwhile I picked up an amusing attack gyrocopter at Man Cave.



Saturday, February 10, 2018

A Big Surprise

Jim came home today. He's currently snoozing next to me on the sofa. YAY! :)

Obviously, with him coming home, I did a quick tidy of the house. The pile of letters by the door was getting a bit outrageous. I never get post so no reason for me to check it, after all.

I sorted them and, worryingly, there was a letter for me. Bulky. It looked important. I opened it with the sense of dread only someone who finds money incredibly stressful can feel.

It was from Barclaycard. I have just under £200 left to pay off of my card and I know I've... erm... been ignoring it. Damn it, I thought, here comes the chase up nasty letter.

I started to read. It was about a PPI claim. They'd sent me a letter months ago about PPI and I'd responded after MUCH nagging from Jim. I'd convinced myself all this PPI stuff was either a scam or, in this case, pointless. They'd come back a while later to refuse my claim. I was smug because obviously I'd been right, it was all pointless.

Then a few weeks later they'd sent another letter saying they may have missed something when they reviewed my case and I should do a new claim given a recent Supreme Court ruling. I didn't complete it, much to Jim's horror. But eventually it was sent back again. I forgot about it.

Well as I read the several pages of letter about my claim I realised they wanted to refund me money. There were lots of sums given. It was written in rather opaque language so I didn't really know if the sums were all part of the first sum mentioned or separate.

They were separate. At the back was a cheque for over £2900. I stopped my tidy up and went and had a sit down. That's enough money to pay off all my debts and leave me with a couple of hundred spending money.

Amazing. Then I checked my bank balance. I've got no money until Thursday. Typical. :)

Bewitched, Bothered and Bewildered (Buffy the Vampire Slayer)

1998 was when my Buffy obsession went from "This is good" to "THIS IS EVERYTHING I'VE EVER WANTED!".

The best 1998 episode was of course a Xander centred one. Whilst everyone else was drooling over Angel, my heart belong to Xander.


And in typical Xander fashion (we all remember what havoc he caused in Once More With Feeling!) he misused a spell to try to win the heart of Cordelia but ended up causing every woman in Sunnydale to fall in love with him... except the cold-hearted Cordelia. 



It's got the best mix of madcap comedy and emotional kick that helped make some of Buffy's greatest episodes.

I wouldn't be the man I am today without Buffy. And my love for Xander will never die...


Friday, February 09, 2018

A New Team

So... I'm sort of fostering a new little team at work. It's funny... the last four teams I've been closely involved with (two self-managing and two as a manager) I've joined at their inception when they were somewhat experimental. This is no different.

Sort of exciting, even though soon enough they'll get themselves a proper team leader. But I get to leave my mark on the team structure and hopefully create something that lasts.

Meanwhile... my terrible walks home in the evening have come to an end today. Feel like I should celebrate somehow! Jim is home tomorrow and that definitely warrants a celebration. Have missed him so much!

Thursday, February 08, 2018

2 Weeks; No Jim

Two weeks alone with just the fluffies in Eastry has been... not very nice.

Jim comes home from Mexico on Saturday and I can't wait. This is the longest we've been apart for years.

Once I've got to the weight I'd like I think I need to, finally, learn to drive. Being alone in London or Folkestone, that was one thing. But being alone in the middle of nowhere, where even walking to a shop in the evening is impossible due to the lack of pavements and streetlights. A journey into Sandwich is like an 30 minute trip braving the dark lane and catching a bus. A journey to Folkestone to go out with anyone I know is nearly 2 hours away if you factor in the bus, train and walk. Driving? Sandwich is like 5 minutes away and Folkestone 25 minutes (it'd be quicker if it wasn't for Dover being in between here and there with its crazy road network of doom).

So yeah... maybe 2019 is the year Jae learns to drive.

Wednesday, February 07, 2018

Eurovision You Decide 2018

Mel Giedroyc and Måns Zelmerlöw brought us as a decidedly Swedish contest to select the British entry for Eurovision 2018 (there was a tribute to Abba, showing us yet again that Britain lives very far in the past...).

"Crazy" by Raya was a very 90s song with no real umph. Didn't do it for me.

"Astronaut" by Liam Tamne was alright. Like a low-key Heroes. Which is the problem, low-key.

"Legends" by Asanda. To be honest with you... didn't actually understand many of the words of this. Just a bunch of screeching. No thanks.

"You" by Jaz Ellington was flipping amazing. Really good. Maybe not for Eurovision but... man he can sing!!!!

"Storm" by SuRie was good. Not a Eurovision winner but a Eurovision contender, that's for sure.

"I Feel The Love" by Goldstone. Just no.

I voted for Jaz Ellington as he deserved but when SuRie won I wasn't too disappointed. She was the best of a bad bunch of others.


Tuesday, February 06, 2018

Re-Blast From The Past

Turns out that this month marks 15 years since I started my first tour of duty at TVW (a predecessor company to the one I currently work for). Out of the 7 people in my original training group two have last 15 years and one, me, has returned to work at the company. That's not bad odds.

Anyway... whilst confirming that fact via this blog I found this little post and I just couldn't resist resharing. What a silly boy I was! Love it.


Monday, February 05, 2018

Monday Diet Check In

Day 14 of the diet. Still going strong.

Week one was about calibrating nutrition. Week two has been about organising and calibrating exercise. On both nutrition and exercise there's a LONG way to go but I've now got both into my normal schedule.

This week has also been about changing my "mañana" attitudes. I've been pushing myself to DO things. If I need to go to a shop... I go. If I need to tidy the kitchen, I do that. I'm very guilty of saying "tomorrow" or "later". That mindset is fundamentally behind how bad I've gotten and won't go away easily or quickly. However I'm confident if I use conscious effort to just DO IT, I'll get better.

Average calorie count still sitting around 1500 - 1600. That's well below my base metabolic rate (BMR) so hopefully will do the trick to kickstart the weight loss.

Now some workout inspiration.

Sunday, February 04, 2018

Second Life Sunday


I've removed the large outdoor stage area and replaced it with a new house from Trompe Loeil (at this month's Uber) which is pretty neat. Still need to finish landscaping outside and decorate inside but that may wait for the delivery of my Deco(c)rate 


I've searched through my inventory to put together a more casual outfit for my avatar. Looking like a muscle model all the time isn't really appropriate in most of the SL sims so this is my "Normie Sim Outfit". And just behind me you can see another new building on my island which is an Asian influenced house with a pool (from this month's Fameshed). Again I need to decorate it.

I've started by putting my other acquisition from Fameshed in there... Jian's latest release is a ball python! It's 500l but you can get a companion python to walk alongside you, a wanderer that you can release on your land and, my favourite, several versions of vivarium with a pet snake in it. Here I've put out the full viv with snake and table.





Saturday, February 03, 2018

Learning Japanese

I've spent the last year or so trying to learn German. I've not got far but feel like I've created a base to work on. I'm continuing to try to read German news stories to keep my knowledge as fresh as possible.

However... I've also flirted with learning Japanese over the years (I even took an extra class at school for it but it was cancelled after about three lessons...). Germany is within easy reach. I can get there quite comfortably and have been twice. Japan... that's a bigger mission. So I'm combining a distant hope of going to Japan with my new lifestyle and weight loss. And thus I'm back to learning Japanese again.

It's such a tough written language to master but the grammar is relatively easy. So far... so good.




Friday, February 02, 2018

Shin Godzilla!

After waiting for far too long I got my hands on Shin Godzilla, the Japanese Godzilla reboot.


It is a very strange movie in that it was both fantastic and rubbish at the same time. The effects were, being typically Godzilla, initially terrible. But as the movie progressed and Godzilla took his full form they became quite awesome (there's a scene when Godzilla is hit by several bomb ladened trains and it just as awesome as that sounds). And, as this was an attempt to show how the modern world would react to Godzilla's emergence, there's none of the cheap get-out "It's so dark you can't really see Godzilla" shots (looks at Legendary's Godzilla with gentle scorn). This is the Godzilla we needed. 

Storyline wise it is a bit of a let down. It's actually, basically, a political drama. Even allowing for the Japanese culture, the characters are very staid and dull. However... not only does it touch on the pain of nuclear catastrophe and harking back to Hiroshima and Nagasaki (in keeping with the original Godzilla) but also it has some pretty cutting remarks on the relationship of Japan to the rest of the world. 

I'm, coincidentally, reading Embracing Defeat which sort of suggests the "Allied" (US) occupation of Japan never ended. This movie plays to those themes and strikes a, to an outsiders ears, nationalist pose. Nationalism has a strong history in Japan and it is amazing to think that they've allowed themselves to be very much a client state of the US into the current era despite that, often worrying, nationalist streak. Anyway... it is very interesting to see those themes played out on the screen even if there's a tinge of concern. 

See... Godzilla isn't just a silly monster flick. Sadly, despite some promise in this movie under the brutally dull script, there is unlikely to be a sequel any time soon due to the agreement Toho has with Legendary who are bizarrely constructing their Monsterverse around their own version of Godzilla

Take away scene: seeing the wave Godzilla creates wash in to Tokyo carrying with it boats. A terrifying image in the way of the 2011 tsunami.


Thursday, February 01, 2018

So What Geekery Is There To Get Excited About In 2018?

Pacific Rim Uprising


I thought Pacific Rim was... okay. But now we're heading into "franchise" territory so there's a lot riding on the sequel. No Charlie Hunnam this time though... he claims he was busy on King Arthur but I'm hoping he was working on the top secret Queer as Folk series 3... ;)


Deadpool 2


Deadpool is one of those Marvel characters I've managed to avoid for my entire Marvel fandom (that's over 20 years... ahem...) until his movie came out. The movie was... perfection. I headed back to the comics, caught up with the adventures of Deadpool and was totally smitten with him. I've got such high hopes for Deadpool 2... please be good. PLEASE.

The First Purge



Last year I finally watch the Purge movies. I'd seen stuff about them on and off and wrote them off as some sort of b-movie rubbish. Well I now own all three and LOVE them. That world is utterly bizzare but really intriguing as a concept. Now a prequel is on its way and I'm stoked! 

The Meg


I've been a fan of Steve Alten's Meg series for years... he's been talking about this movie for pretty much the same length of time in his monthly emails to fans. AND NOW IT IS FINALLY HERE!!! Soon. Ish. Ok, August. But still. GIANT SHARK. Mmm...